Dear Truthexplorer, I wish you well, it is such a hard thing to know "the truth" and pretend to be "in the truth." As others have noted, it all depends on your wife, if you have spoken before, or if she will take the time to read.
The points you have made are well written..... I have seen the propagandized lines of the WT take people's brains over right before my eyes... The human is no longer human. Reasoning is not allowed... Scripture is disregarded... The walls just go up to keep the intruder out.
So sorry that it is so hard, however, if she has any human feeling left in her, she will want to help you, and just like it took time for the WT to propagandize her, it will take time to de-propagandize.
My suggestion? Build your husband / wife relationship with her.... Take her on 'dates'.... create memories, fun... loving ones... Go on vacations / trips so that she has less time in service / meetings... you need to 'take her away' from the hamster wheel.
Good luck!
cha ching!